Many are creeped out by child avatars - i mean really, why would anyone wanna play a child in a game? like anything else it has its advantages ... don't you remember how fun it was to play on the playground? wake up and all you had to worry about was cartoons and such? it was great!
I have a dear friend, her name is JenyferLynn - i know her in real life, she is decently over 18 and has a great deal of fun playing a child avatar (she does like many have an adult 'alt' but out of respect for her privacy i am not gonna disclose who that is)... this is a picture i did for jeny and her profile, she put the background together and i did the rest of the work:
Jeny has lucky out and is part of a great family. I, unlike jeny, prefer to play the parent role in second life.... while there are many good children out there like Jeny (several i count as good friends!) there are also bad apples.
My first small child in SL was named Amaya - she was great and we got along for several weeks and then just all of a sudden *POOF* she wasn't coming on for almost 3 weeks... after the 4th week of contact i noticed that she had logged on but never contacted me.... odd right? i sent her a note and asked that if she still wanted to continue the relationship that she should let me know what was going on - particularly wh yshe unchecked my ability to "view login status" (in other words i couldn't see when she logged in like other friends). In the end Amaya gave me an excuse which ... welll who knows, she detailed something about her real life and... I just in the end had a feeling she wasn't into playing a child avatar any more.
The second time i tried to adopt small children in SL was recently, i thought it was going well but found out today... not so much. I played a lot and was beginning to "teach" one of the wins i was on trial with and also was preparing for her to attend school she really is a good girl - however her counterpart and twin Fiona Flasheart is NOT.
Fiona Flasheart is the twin i had initial contact with - spent some hours with her over the first day and 1/2 of the trial nad then she disappeared, again she like amaya didn't seem to log in. I spoke with the "good" twin about how she felt about Fiona not logging in and while i would always welcome Fiona as part of my family - maybe adopting another child so the "good" twin would have a playmate may have a good idea? this conversation only happened today...
While offline i received an email the the good twin sent me ... it sounded a little emotional when i read it, and a great deal confused... basically she was ending her relationship with me but wasn't truly explaining why.
I had a feeling that she, the good twin, may have mentioned our conversation about adopting another child to Fiona and Fiona took it out of context and didn't understand. I mean i understood fiona had RL school and we all have important things... the only contact i made an attempt at with fiona when she "disappeared" was to drop her 2 messages saying things like "i hope school is going good, we miss you", i made no other attempts to contact her.
I found out later thru a shared "family" member that Fiona seems to have had other motives in pursuing a family RP relationship ... she took my brother for a 350L SL football jersey... and while i did not give her more than say 30L directly (5L here and there) i did make some purchase for which i still retain ownership for that i would not have neccesarily made if it weren't for the twins. Fiona also made comments about my beign nagging to some others, which is not true... the one thing i can say about my second situation is if you come across FIONA its probably best to stay away i have a strong feeling she is only looking for someone to support her FULLY and while i don't mind doing this for and with my SL children i am not here to support their adult avatars thru "allowances" or "purchases" for their child avatar.
In summation if your gonna adopt (and i am gonna try again) children avatars in second life, here is some well thought out advice:
1. if you use an adoption service - be aware of the rules (i use/have used the group "making adoption wishes come true"
2. do not make any large purchases which you then give to or the children have ownership rights to - if the trial does not work out, thats money wasted - always retain ownership if you feel you MUST by the child something
3. avoid giving large sums to the children - i would say avoid giving any linden directly until after the trial is over and a solid relationship is established.
4. Trust your gut - if something doesn't feel right, just like in real life .. .walk away! There are plenty
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